Devotion – is it the same as loyalty?

19 Jul Devotion – is it the same as loyalty?

Devotion vs loyalty

While devotion and loyalty have similarities they also have differences. They both fit under the banner of love. However, there is a distinction between the two.

According to the set of cards, used in this blog ‘Devotion is commitment to something we care deeply about’. And ‘Loyalty is unwavering commitment to the people and ideals we care about’.

My prior understanding was that devotion was more for a cause-related issue, or an idea that one believes in. Loyalty was more people focussed and a state of behaviour, a character quality that caused us to feel strongly about what we were devoted to as such.

There’s a fine line between the two which isn’t always easy to explain. And although we have our perceptions, like everything they can change over time, as we gain new ways of looking at things.

Usually, dogs are loyal to their owners but one wouldn’t say they are devoted to their owners. Although there have been times when dogs have been known to be lying on the grave of their master or waiting for them to return to a particular spot after they have passed on. This indicates a level of devotion.

Thoughts and behaviours

Actually, just writing about this example of the dog provides me with a new perception that I’ll share with you.

The example of the dog gave me the idea that the dog valued the owner and was loyal to him.

The dog loved his master so much that his behaviour resulted in lying on the master’s gravesite, or waiting for his master to return to a certain spot. That behaviour could be a display of devotion.

Obviously, we can’t tell what the dog is thinking so can only take a guess based on their behaviour.

It’s sort of similar to when people’s words and actions match up – which ironically they often don’t.

Everything has its limits

Devotion, and loyalty, have limits though. The only behaviour you can control is yourself and that is challenging.

Think of the times when you think you’ll go for a walk; take a run; stop smoking; save more money; speak more kindly to people; manage your time better; get your finances in order or whatever action you’d like to take – but then don’t.

All of us do this. Self-discipline is one of the hardest things to overcome. But it can be done. Everything worth having is worth fighting for so they say.

The person that you need to look after first is yourself and if anyone wants to run you down in any way, do not give them permission. You’re in control of your life. Not everyone has your best interests at heart. Some have theirs.

Put yourself first. Because when you do you can look after others who deserve it. Naturally, there’s limits, boundaries and wisdom required in order to do this. What are your limits, boundaries and are you in control enough so that you can change things for the better for yourself and those that you love?

• Pets – talk to children about the loyalty of a pet and if they think their pet is loyal to them
• Ask – your child about what they are devoted to and discuss that with them to help them understand more about devotion
• Share – with your child what you are devoted to and the reasons why – attempt to leave out politics and religion – and of course sex!