What’s moderation got to do with raising kids, you ask? Today’s world is a world of excess. You think of something you want, and within minutes, you’ve purchased it online.

Once you’ve received it, it has to go somewhere.

Having a dedicated spot for your things helps you realise when moderation turns into excess.

There’s a saying, ‘Balance and moderation in all things.’ So what exactly does that mean?

Moderation typically focuses on individual behaviour or choices, like diet, exercise, and the consumption of certain substances.

Balance is a broader perspective. For example, somebody can apply balance in their work-life and emotional balance.

For example, children grow out of their clothes, shoes, toys, and everything else.

Therefore, unless their things are passed down or shared with a younger sibling, the space in their wardrobe or toy box is likely cluttered.

At this point, it’s clear that moderation has turned to excess.

Of stuff your child doesn’t even need or want anymore.

When we remove the excess clutter, we find clarity. Physically and mentally.

We feel lighter and more aware of what is around us and what we have. It’s easier to see what we want, and we appreciate what we have.

As a parent, you are responsible for role-modelling moderation for your child, whether in diet, exercise, clothing, shoes, alcohol, emotions, or anything else that comes to mind.

For that reason, this is why our children teach us more than we teach them.

Parents rise to the challenge of being a parent because it is a challenge at times.

There’s so much we need to be aware of role modelling to our children; it isn’t an easy journey. At times, it can be downright challenging.

Children will always follow your example, not your advice.

Therefore, be mindful that what you say matches what you do because children are the first to point out the difference, with brutal honesty.

Some suggestions you might like to take on are:

1.  Review wardrobes, shoes & toys every six months (always start with yours).

2. Decide if you will sell, give away or keep (for younger siblings or future children).

3. If you’re going to keep it, place it in a specific container that gets reviewed next time, too.

4. Give away – Donate what and when you can, and help others.

5. Sell – set a date shortly; if the item is still available, donate it.

Not only will your child learn to live in moderation, but they will learn about kindness and generosity.