08 Oct Trustworthiness – be worthy of
Trust & trustworthiness
What’s the difference, you ask, between trust and trustworthiness? Placing trust in someone is having faith that they will come good, that they will keep your secret or say or do whatever it is they said they would do. It could also mean placing trust in a situation, or event, that everything will turn out well. Hope is trust’s friend. Trustworthiness is being worthy of the trust others place in you, whether it means turning up on time, taking care of someone’s pet or children or being there when a friend needs you.
Small stuff, big stuff
Trustworthiness involves small stuff and big stuff. We all have different perspectives of what the small stuff is and what is the big stuff is. We often judge others on what we believe to be important, rather than what they consider to be important. What is a small thing to one person could be huge to another and vice versa.
Wisdom required
In today’s world, we have lots of people who take advantage of vulnerable people, from teenagers to the elderly. Teenagers might share personal images of themselves, believing that the only person who will see the pictures is the person they shared it with. The elderly might share personal banking details with someone who presents as helpful. These people are mostly strangers who are using their particular skills to get what they want from you. Use your wisdom – images and information cannot be shared with the world if you don’t share them in the first place.
Feeling comfortable
Sometimes you will make an error of judgement, we all make those. Be clear on your priorities and your boundaries and remember if people pressure you into sharing images or information, and it makes you feel uncomfortable to remember the saying ‘if in doubt, don’t’. Ultimately you are in control, and every choice you make has consequences. Think things through as thoroughly as you can so that you are comfortable with the results of your options.
The balance of trustworthiness
Some people trust others without until they prove they are not worthy of their trust. Others do not trust others until they prove they are worthy of their trust. People tend to lean one way or another. There is balance required here and what I suggest is to trust people with the small stuff, to begin with, and do not share what you don’t want to be shared with the world Life is terrific. In today’s world we are all subject to placing trust in those we should and those we shouldn’t, sometimes you will make an error of judgment so when you do think kind thoughts of yourself, you are human, and life is all about living and learning so – be kind, be kind, be kind.
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